Saturday, October 6, 2012



I received many requests from readers to keep this blog "alive". To keep this blog active so that Chang's efforts for the past three years will not be wasted.  That if I were to stop posting, this blog would be left idle and no one would tap into Chang's work. My question to them was, what do you think I should write about?
    
I did give serious consideration to these requests. I thought through as to how best to do justice to this blog. Also, what I can do to allow this blog to continue to be a valuable resource to cancer patients.To this end, last week I invited a hypnotherapist to contribute an article on the use of hypnotherapy in cancer and she has accepted. There were other suggestions as well that I post the story of other cancer patients who have tried alternative therapies and document their results here. In fact, I have written to a reader to ask for permission to post her story on this blog. It looks like these will  remain as only ideas.   

Anyway, I received an anonymous feedback yesterday that I should post on a separate blog. Probably, after the aftermath of the very heated religious debate and the comments made, anonymous said this blog is being contaminated and readers are putting words in Chang's mouth. And to leave this blog alone. I don't know what the readers here think. Readers have argued over religion here in the past, sometimes over a few days. Everyone gets so heated and then "contaminate" this blog with their comments. Is that so?

I am not sure if you have any idea how much pressure it is to write on another person's behalf. More so when the article is posted publicly. It is a huge responsibility. I would not have done it if not for Chee Teck. And I would not be at this point if not to preserve his memory and his work. In fact, a reader asked me just this morning if I have stopped posting on this blog and I said yes. And that it is time to move on. That I wouldn't want to keep writing about the past unless something fresh and useful comes along.

The only reason why I wrote about the past here was to use it as a reference point for learning and sharing. And there is so much one can learn from another person's life. Also to address readers' concerns about the dying process, which is very relevant especially for a terminally ill patient, if not all of us.There is no taboo here, talking about dying. I just did not want to trigger off an ugly religious debate, which unfortunately happened. I recognise  also that even though we connect via the blog, we do still grieve for him in our way.  I felt a few extra posts would wrap up nicely the loose ends, answer your questions,  grieve together and move on together. 

 I created a blog called The Bodhi Circle.. You may visit me there at http://www.bodhicircle.blogspot.com.  This will be my last post here.

(Updated by Chang's Friend)

5 comments:

  1. Hi CT Chang's friend, It ia not easy to continue writing at Chang's blog as after writing a few follow ups, you may not know how to continue further. It will come to a halt somehow. Topics coming in may not be Chang's stories of how he cope his illness, this is what interest the readers with some interactions as friends over here. Yes, you have done the correct thing in opening your own blog and placed your thoughts and feelings over there. To me, there is no such thing as contamination, every topic is worthy to read for interest, knowledge and care. I shall continue reading both blogs but most of the time I am a silent reader. Cindi

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  2. Dear kind friend of Chang, Since this is going to be your last post in this blog, may I be allowed to share my last thought here. Perhaps as a mark of respect to Chang,and to avoid further "contamination" here, would it be a wise idea that this blog be set to "no comment allowed". With this "no comment allowed" setting, this blog will be left to rest in peace, while still be available for all to read and learn. I think this Blogger site may not have this setting. If you think this idea is not possible, then you may consider "comment moderation" setting. Good-bye "Friend of Chang" and good-bye Chang.

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  3. t's kinda funny to read about blog sites being "contaminated". first time ever i came across such a concept

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  4. ear Chang's Friend, I will surely miss this blog. Chang though I don't know him, he has been a part my life. I have great respect for him even we are of different religion. His research toward cancer, his perception to life even in illness and his strength in facing death. Chang is truly a remarkable person. I hope I could be like him when my time comes. And to you Chang's friend, thank you for being there for Chang and bearing with us (readers/supporters) to the very end. Posting on his behalf when he was no longer capable. Qualities like you are seldom seen. You have done well and made him proud. You really are a true friend. Take care Chang's friend and God bless! Mike

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  5. Dear Chang's friend, You are indeed a great friend and you certainly live up to the proverb 'A Friend In Need Is A Friend Indeed'. Thank you for sharing with us all your thoughts and for keeping this blog 'alive' even after Chang's departure. Yes, we will certainly miss this blog for all the information and sharing that Chang and your good-self have done. See you at 'The Bodhi Circle'. May you be Well & Happy Always! Warmest Rgds CP

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