tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7663181626936078312.post49371583152163873..comments2024-01-19T17:28:53.966+08:00Comments on Upekha: Flashback: First Twelve MonthsCT Changhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11085620064834659684noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7663181626936078312.post-44191197474870263552012-04-10T14:19:52.323+08:002012-04-10T14:19:52.323+08:00Hi, I just stumbled across your blog when I did so...Hi, I just stumbled across your blog when I did some research on kidney cancer. My nephew just had a nephrectomy yesterday for a malignant cyst in his kidney. Doctor said it was stage 1. I see that you mentioned some alternative treatment in your blog. Would you mind sharing the details? Thanks so much writing this blog. It gives a lot of hope for people who have family with kidney cancer. God Bless...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7663181626936078312.post-74676250573485655322011-02-13T05:55:50.235+08:002011-02-13T05:55:50.235+08:00You wrote of not being able to control your emotio...You wrote of not being able to control your emotions and crying and that you felt the need to protect your parents from the terrible news. I think I also try to shield my loved ones... from my fears, from scary news about my health, from having to see me sick or from having to take care of me. I've been learning another way over this past year through my journey. I finally know the meaning of the expression "no man is an island".<br /><br />I needed to learn to accept help and love from others. This was very difficult at first because I see myself as the strong capable one who is always helping everyone else. For me, becoming vulnerable has brought me closer to the people I love and deepened our relationships now that it's more even. I need them just as much as they need me. I am reminded of the Simon and Garfunkle song "I Am a Rock"...<br /><br /><br />A winter's day<br />In a deep and dark December;<br />I am alone,<br />Gazing from my window to the streets below<br />On a freshly fallen silent shroud of snow.<br />I am a rock,<br />I am an island.<br /><br />I've built walls,<br />A fortress deep and mighty,<br />That none may penetrate.<br />I have no need of friendship; friendship causes pain.<br />It's laughter and it's loving I disdain.<br />I am a rock,<br />I am an island.<br /><br />Don't talk of love,<br />Well, I've heard the word before.<br />It's sleeping in my memory.<br />I won't disturb the slumber of feelings that have died.<br />If I never loved I never would have cried.<br />I am a rock,<br />I am an island.<br /><br />I have my books<br />And my poetry to protect me;<br />I am shielded in my armor,<br />Hiding in my room, safe within my womb.<br />I touch no one and no one touches me.<br />I am a rock,<br />I am an island.<br /><br />And a rock feels no pain;<br />And an island never cries.<br /><br />CT, I will offer this advise to you, although I usually refrain from offering unsolicited advise... Don't try to be an island. Let others in. Lighten your burden. Cry. It's cathartic. Crying lets the sad out, making more room for more pleasant feelings.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17378442218544424352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7663181626936078312.post-8174861152195157772011-02-12T23:56:55.559+08:002011-02-12T23:56:55.559+08:00Isn't it too early for Valentine's wishes?...Isn't it too early for Valentine's wishes?<br /><br />Anyway, I guess for CT, each day is a Valentine to express his love for all.<br /><br />May cupid strike a loving arrow to your butt, CT, on top of the many shots you administer to yourself!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7663181626936078312.post-70930965449086314902011-02-12T23:53:22.868+08:002011-02-12T23:53:22.868+08:00Bro Chang,
Welcome back, mate! Loved your sharing...Bro Chang,<br /><br />Welcome back, mate! Loved your sharing today.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7663181626936078312.post-45364148386612460562011-02-12T23:51:54.914+08:002011-02-12T23:51:54.914+08:00CT,
Would like to know how your loving spouse too...CT,<br /><br />Would like to know how your loving spouse took the news. Her support and companionship must have been the most crucial to carry you through this? She must be a very strong lady...like you.<br /><br />Mary<br />MumbaiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7663181626936078312.post-78329703369535832102011-02-12T23:48:56.415+08:002011-02-12T23:48:56.415+08:00Can you share with us if you had the opportunity t...Can you share with us if you had the opportunity to start all over, would you have lived differently? Loved a bit more? Not rat race so much? etc What went through your mind during your holiday in China? What was going through your mind as you flew high up in the clouds, touching the heavens? How did your mum take it when you broke her the news?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7663181626936078312.post-61368422704960300192011-02-12T23:40:46.142+08:002011-02-12T23:40:46.142+08:00CT,
For the courageous love that you continue to ...CT,<br /><br />For the courageous love that you continue to share, especially in your journal today, wishing you a very happy Valentine's Day.<br /><br />I can feel through your sharing that you are a very good and obedient son, a faithful spouse, a caring father and most of all, a generous friend.<br /><br />Keep sharing your journey and I am certain that you will rekindle the fire that has sustained you so far.<br /><br />That's right, share with us your thoughts of your journey.<br /><br />God's blessings to you this Valentine's.Pilgrimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06275875135905335163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7663181626936078312.post-1230919524203890092011-02-12T23:30:22.336+08:002011-02-12T23:30:22.336+08:00This flashback blog today was most touching to me....This flashback blog today was most touching to me. I am glad you have chosen to recap your journey and I pray that you find more strength for the present and future. What you have shared is very sincere and honest.<br /><br />I know that this reflection of your journey will bring you much healing from within. Sometimes I think you have forgotten how strong and courageous you once were and will continue to be.<br /><br />Keep it up and I am sure many will look forward to your update tomorrow. <br /><br />For all of the blog followers out there, I would like to suggest that each one leave a little comment each day after your visit for CT - to encourage him. This I am sure will help alleviate the loneliness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com